Let's Get Real About Your Goals! Learn How to Improve so You Can Succeed.

What is a goal?

Simply stated, a goal is something you aim to achieve-- something that requires effort to get there.  This could be anything!  I will be discussing goals related to fitness and health.

Goal Setting Mistakes

Every person has a goal, or something in the back of their mind that they really wish or want for.  What you need to ask yourself is, in MY REALITY, can I even get to this result?  Is it ACHIEVABLE?

The most common mistake I see as a coach is people set a goal of "I want to lose weight and look like a bikini model."  Well yeah, wouldn't we all??  But is that reality?  Not to mention, you should never compare yourself to anyone else, let alone a bikini model.  Some of those women were blessed with great genes, and as we all know, photoshop is real.

Look, I exercise 5 to 6 times a week, I eat healthy for the most part.  Guess what?  I will never look like a bikini model.  My body just isn't built that way.  I'm shorter, I have broad shoulders, muscular legs, and a short torso.  I am never going to change the build of my body, my genetics.

The Key to Setting a Reachable Goal: YOU

YOU are the key to your success!  When you set a fitness goal for yourself, think about yourself, what is realistic for you, your DNA.

Of course goals are set to make changes and improvements.  I am not saying you can't change based on where you are at currently in your fitness level or weight.  What I am saying is the minute you set a goal for reasons other than to change for yourself, to be a better you, you will not succeed. 

Do not compare yourself to another person.  We are all different.  Set goals with you in mind. 

Do not set goals based on how you want others to see you or how you think other people would want to see you.  

What do I mean?  Don't set weight loss goals so that you your selfies on Facebook look better and people are going to "ooh" and "aah" over you!  Do not set a goal to lose weight because you want your friends to say "oh you look great!".  That is just a bonus, it should not be the reason.  

Set those goals because you want to be healthier and feel better in your body.  When that is your intent, success will come and you will feel so much better about what you accomplish!

Start Simple

Set a goal that is small and achievable, but be specific.  For example, "I want to lose weight" is too general.  

Quantify it and make it reasonable.  "I want to lose 10 pounds."  Now you have a number to work toward and focus on.

Put a Time Frame into Place


Okay, you want to lose 10 lbs.  In a year?  In 6 months?  In 3 weeks?  Without a time frame, you are more likely to forget about it and never get there.  And remember, BE REALISTIC.  You can't lose 10 lbs in 2 days.

Remember, Goals are Part of Your Overall Vision

So, you lose 10 pounds in 2 months.  What now?  Do you just check it off and forget about it?


Setting goals and accomplishing them are just part of the process of creating your fit lifestyle.  It is a never-ending process, you have to keep going.  As your body, health, and overall well-being changes, you need to set new goals.  Always work towards your overall lifestyle vision that you want to live by for as long as you are here and alive!

For example, a vision is as simple as "I want to be fit, happy, and healthy."  This encompasses many things, and to live that truth, you will continually create new goals and accomplishments for yourself.

If You Set a Goal and Fail, That is not Failure

Remember, this is all a learning process.  I am still learning every single day how to become a happier, healthier, fitter individual.  That's what makes it exciting and keeps me going.

If your 2 months go by, and you didn't lose that 10 pounds, instead you lost 5, you may feel like a failure.  Heck no!  You just learned what doesn't work for YOU.  Learn, adjust, set a new goal, and move forward.


We all have bad days.  We miss a workout, we eat bad food, we get down on ourselves.  It is normal even for the fittest of people!

What I see very often is when someone is on a "diet" and they made a commitment to a fitness program, they have one bad day and it spirals out of control.  They say "well I had a piece of pizza that I shouldn't have had, so I may as well eat the entire thing, and this ice cream, and drink this wine.  Well I ruined it all I should just quit."   I will admit I am quoting myself-- there are times I just love me some pizza and ice cream and I turn into a monster!

It is so easy to feel like you've failed, and once you get in that mindset it is hard to get back out.  Just remember every day is a new day, a chance to start over and get back on track.  It takes time to get back to it, but you will!

If you need help staying on track, there is power in numbers.  Contact me if you need someone to lean on or need help setting your goals!

Just remember, set your realistic goals with your overall lifestyle vision in mind and it will come!